Which is– I’ve been hearing your musical spirit in the Fall breeze and it fills my soul!

That would be from Denise Rae Kouzoujian not Kenise!

Your friend always,
denise

Your Friend,
Denise

I want to send you all my and my family’s love and support. Jeffrey you are a great mate and a wonderful inspiration for us all, both as a friend, colleague and muso.

Atlassian has been a sombre place since we heard the news, but we have been comforted by the thought that you live your life to the fullest. I have been privileged to have shared some small part of that with you, and am inspired by your example. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

the greatest love and affection,
jed and family.

Bryan and I spoke this weekend about getting back to what gives us one of our greatest pleasures and that is having dear friends over for dinner. Bryan can really cook. I think I have told you and Jessy that. You and Jessy were first on the list. I was to call you this week about dates. So here is a goal, simple and small, dinner at chez Wilmer/Shiles.

By the way, I am off to Holland again in October and would love to see the Atlassian office in Amsterdam. I am guessing it may be in need of some design help! So do your thing and tell this cancer thing to “piss off”, come to our home for dinner and see you in Amsterdam in October.

Jesse,
So good to hear your strength, know that you are taking care of yourself and accepting help. How can I help from SF? Not sure but if you have family or friends flying in and out of SF needing to be picked up or a place to stay before an early morning flight out of the city please do not hesitate to call. And yes an open invitation to dinner at chez Willmer/Shiles awaits you….. I really miss the fact that we were not able to make it work last year.

Much Love, Sarah

p.s. loved the guitar solo.

I’m so happy that Jeffrey’s fighting spirit has inspired Louie to battle his cancer. Louie is so young and vibrant – I can’t imagine him *not* fighting!

I’d like to add a few of my personal tips as the spouse of Cancer Dude:

1) ATTITUDE: We have found statistics to be meaningless – positive thinking, love and attitude are what its all about (along with a little chemo and surgery…)

2) DON’T HOLD BACK – In a weird way you have been given a gift. You know how fragile life can be, so embrace it fully, no regrets. Say everything you want to say, now.

3) BE PRESENT – Try not to think about what *might* happen down the road – it will wear you down. Focus on what’s happening today and tomorrow.

4) ADVOCATE – No matter how good the hospital, doctors and nurses, don’t be afraid to ask for what Louie needs. Be nice but push. Learn ‘their’ system, from where the linens are to how you get the resources you need (I could write a book…)

5) CARE FOR YOURSELF – I know this sounds obvious, but you need to carve out time every day for yourself. I hike 60 minutes a day. I make sure I eat well and regularly. I sleep in my own bed at night (the cots at the hospitals suck). It does the patient no good if you’re on the verge of a breakdown. A good therapist is invaluable!!!

6) ACCEPT HELP – Figure out how your friends can help (they want to help) and assign them tasks. Or ask a friend to be the point person. I don’t like people to bring me food, but I like them to grocery shop for me.

Someone once told me that its a marathon, not a sprint. So pace yourself accordingly. Louie will be better off for it!

Hugs and much love, Jessy

eddy